Differently-able: Using Utensils

by Dani

Because Dragonfly was not only born without usable thumbs but also with wrists that turn in, learning to eat using utensils has been a bit of a challenge. We're still working on using a spoon for thin liquids (she's fine with medium thick things like applesauce and yogurt) but she's got the fork thing down! Check out her grip on the fork in the pictures below! Differently-able! :)


by Dani

Recently on one of the online groups I am part of the topic came up of our children with radial aplasia/dysplasia being referred to as handicapped. To be honest, I really, really dislike the term. It's not that it is a bad word or degrading or a slur or anything like that in and of itself.  I just don't see the word as applying to my children. And, what's more, that I don't want THEM to see it as applying.

I fell pretty much the same about the term "disabled". Again, it doesn't fit Lil'Bug at all. Not at all. There is NOTHING this child can not do with his two hands that any "normal" handed child could do. There is no "dis" about him. I suppose a case could be made that Dragonfly fits the definition of disabled as there are some things she can not yet do as a result of her congenital issues and perhaps she will never be able to do those things.  But who am I to limit her?

So in that spirit, I would like to propose a new term that I will refer to them as... not "dis"-able but differently-able. I plan on sharing on this blog regularly things they are able to do but maybe doing it differently. I say it a lot in real life and I'm going to say it now here...

My kiddos have hands that look different, but there is nothing "wrong" with them. They can do anything anyone else can; they just might do it differently.

Bragging On My Boys

by Dani

Okay this is a Momma brag post. If that's not your cup of tea, feel free to click elsewhere! :)

First up is my Cricket. Cricket is in the Lego club at our homeschool co-op. It's his favorite thing at co-op and, probably, the only thing he would miss if we stopped going. Anyway, they had a lego building competition. Only rule was no kits. Cricket build a police station/prison. It was complete with a coffee mug on the officer's desk and a video camera over the cells!

He won 3rd place for this creation, and his prize was a fun kit from the City set with a police transport and criminals escaping! He wasted NO time putting it together.

Then there is my Lil' Bug. Lil' Bug has really made progress in a number of areas lately. His speech is MUCH clearer and he is talking up a storm about everything. He is also asking to do school work. In his preschool co-op class a few weeks back he surprised me by tracing the letter "F".

Then on Easter in Sunday School he colored a picture for the very first time. Then later in the week he colored an other one! To be honest he was more thorough then most of his siblings at his age... and all with out thumbs! :)