"I want to be beautiful."

by Dani


It's the day every parent of a child with a visible birth defect dreads. No matter how often you've told them how beautiful they are. No matter how much you have affirmed that they are precious and beloved to you and to God. No matter that they know they are created in His image and perfect in His sight. No matter, the day comes that someone calls them ugly or makes fun of their difference and the nasty little lies stick.

My confident little Ladybug got hit. She is beautiful and precious and perfect, and she used to know it. But a little liar told her that her nose was "funny" and "ugly" and laughed at her. I'm not sure exactly who it was. It may have actually been more then one child. She hasn't told me who. And it really doesn't matter "who". The words hurt. They cut. They left Ladybug self-conscious of her nose. Watching her face fall when someone mentions her nose even to say something as benign as "you've got something on your nose", is enough to break this mommy's heart.

"I want the doctor to make me beautiful" she says. So this summer Ladybug will have her first cleft related surgery with us. Her wonderful surgeon will be doing a lip revision to adjust the angle of her nostril so that it does not pull as flat as it does now. I really hope that she is pleased with the surgery. But most of all I hope she can heard the many voices around her trying to talk over the lies... "you are already so beautiful, Ladybug!  So precious.... so loved!"